Femisoygnists: The Women Scorned . . . By Women

I was responding to an excellent post at Potluck by our fellow conservative blogger Just A Conservative Girl, and I went on and on.  And on.  So I thought it would be better to simply use that response, expanded a bit, as a post.  While the point of JACG’s post was more to do with the way our society has made “disposable” the idea and sacrament of marriage, my hackles were raised by the part about a Marie Claire (who reads that crap?  Stacy McCain, apparently.  Well, good on him, more men should read magazines whose target audience is women.) article about how women are hoodwinked by fairy tales of Prince Charming and movies about love conquering all and assorted “happily ever after” tales of romantic love.   This is a typical leftist lie, fostered, fomented, and foisted upon women (and men) who dare support traditional gender roles as a matter of choice.

The disposable spouse mentality is a direct result of femisogynists hammering away at traditional gender roles, not with the idea of expanding their scope to make acceptable all sorts of life and career choices for women but with the direct and sole goal of eliminating the woman’s traditional roles.  This is why they attack and belittle women who choose Christian marriages, prefer to be stay-at-home moms, want to fulfill some or part of the traditional roles for women.  They don’t want women to have this choice, and they hold the women who do in utter contempt, accusing them of being brainwashed or otherwise impaired.  Any woman who chooses a traditional female role in the family or society can only be misguided, deluded, and brainwashed.   A thoughtless creature, really, for succumbing to the influence of a misogynist patriarchy.

Is the irony of this indictment lost on them?  Oh, yes, a thousand times yes.

Femisogyny is not about, and never was about, women’s equality or women’s right to choose her own path.  Women are too stupid and may choose the wrong path, a traditional path that doesn’t conform to the femisogynists’ idea of egalitarianism.  If you don’t want to be a butch man- and woman-hater, then there’s clearly something wrong with you.  They want traditional gender role choices for women gone.  Completely.  And to that end, their methodology has long been to attack anything and everything that fosters, romanticizes, or otherwise depicts these roles in a positive light (up to, including, perhaps especially, Judeo-Christian traditions). 

Rather than choosing to educate women about myriad choices, they target, demonize, and seek to destroy completely any concept of traditional womanhood. If these femisogynists really cared about women and women’s choices, they’d seek ways to add to the “woman’s sphere,” but they don’t.  Instead, they’ve chosen a path that explicitly belittles, cattily attacks, and brutally diminishes any woman who chooses a traditional role/s for herself.

Feminists, the real ones who sought, fought for, and died for the right for women to vote, own property, etc., would be utterly appalled by this misogynistic band of hyenas who call themselves “feminists” but who actually loathe women and seek to diminish them at every turn.  Those first feminists were intent upon freeing women from being boxed in, being told there was something wrong with them if they didn’t feel maternal or if they felt no desire to keep house or to carry out traditional women’s roles as wife, mother, and helpmate.  These early feminists never intended that there be no other choice but to live their life as pseudo-men, draped in bitterness, envy, and hate, crowned with a sense of superiority and sneering disdain for women who prefer, by choice, to be wives, mothers, helpmates in a more traditional sense.  These early feminists, the real ones, didn’t belittle women who chose to be wives, homemakers, mothers; they simply tried to forge a path for those who didn’t find fulfillment in these roles.

But for today’s femisogynists, it’s still about putting women in a box–but one of their choosing, and then insisting that everyone conform, using the same bullying, belittling, and “othering” tactics that they claim to disparage when used against women by a “patriarchal society.”  Femisogyny is about tearing down, not building up. It’s about shutting doors, not opening them.  It’s about destroying women, hating them, not restoring them and loving them.  It’s about alienating and ridiculing women, not embracing and supporting them.

They say there is nothing worse than a woman scorned, and to femisogynists, there is no one more deserving of scorn than real women who reject their agenda of hate and disunity, of disdain and loathing for other women who refuse to be put into a box in the name of “women’s rights.”  Femisogynists lash out in hatred and condemnation at any woman who refuses to be packaged, labeled, shelved, and marketed in their image.  Our unwillingness to accept this ironic and deeply-flawed thinking makes us the target of their scorn, for no one, no one, feels more scorned than the femisogynist faced with a strong woman who not only chooses but happily embraces one or more of the traditional female gender roles.


Cross-posted at Potluck.



14 thoughts on “Femisoygnists: The Women Scorned . . . By Women

  1. reading this, i can't help but think of my one sister. she could not, and still doesn't, understand my wanting to stay home with my kids. of course, i don't think she understands why i had kids, either. i'm sure she thinks i'm an idiot because i didn't follow in her footsteps.

  2. @Kerry, this is the leftie sis, right? Well, we can't choose our family, only our friends, but it must be frustrating to hear that stuff. Obviously, you are *not* an idiot, you are free-thinking woman who made a very rational (and quite wonderful and selfless) choice. Celebrate that.

  3. i think there is a gene in my family that makes certain members of the family think, “you're related to me, so you must be/act/think exactly like me.” my dad has it, my sister has it, and i think my oldest son has it

  4. In addition to all this, and yes I agree with everything you wrote, the lib fems are so pro abortion that if they get wind of a gal facing an unintended pregnancy or a pregnancy with a detectable abnormality, the libs push abortion vociferously and disdain any woman who chooses life. I think this is part of the reason Palin is treated worse than Bachmann. They both embrace their womanhood and power, but Palin had the temerity to choose life for Trig. That puts Palin in the top 10%, as 90% of babies with Down Syndrome are aborted.

    Palin's good character is so far above these bloodthirsty hags it infuriates them. The mere mention of her causes them to act deranged.

  5. Fuzzi:
    Thanks for the linky love. I stayed home for several years, just went back to work two or three months ago. I heard a lot of crap about staying home. Many were supportive, but every so often I would hear comments like, 'I don't know how you stay home all day'. Like I was sitting around eating bon bons or something. Staying home with kids all day is much harder than 90% of jobs out there.

  6. Fuzzy…
    Great post as usual… My mother was a stay at home mom with (3) boys, two of us the same age (immagine that) until our father passed away at the ripe old age of 41… This isn't about sympathy, but about the strength God gave women… She had left college to be a wife and mother, so at the age of 38, she was with little or no training thrown into the work force in 1957… She ended up going back to night school to learn accounting and increase her earning cappacity in the work force… There is no force in nature like that of a mother protecting her young… Like Sarah says sometimes you've gotta “Fight Like A Girl”… We need more girls like yourself…

  7. You said it right when you said,

    “And to that end, their methodology has long been to attack anything and everything that fosters, romanticizes, or otherwise depicts these roles in a positive light (up to, including, perhaps especially, Judeo-Christian traditions).”

    I believe in happily ever afters. I believe my greatest place is in my home, supporting my husband while he supports me. I graduated college, mostly self financed it, had a good paying job for a time in a male dominated industry. I competed and did well.

    But as soon as my first son was born, my husband and I decided to financially struggle. He was still in school and working odd jobs and I stayed at home and had 3 of our 4 kids while living in a 2 bedroom apartment. And I was never more fulfilled. That fulfillment did not Pollyanna away our stresses of providing physically, mentally and emotionally ourselves and our little family-but the trade-off is one I have never questioned or regretted.

  8. @Opus, so true, as always with these horrible femisogynists, there is no actual choice, only the one thing they dictate. And yes, that has a lot to do with their, as distinct from other leftists, animosity towards Sarah (and Trig, himself).

    @JACG, heh, you're welcome. 🙂 Early feminists (real ones, not this batch of shrews and harridans) sought to elevate the stay-at-home mom, to champion her hard work and self-sacrifice. That all got eclipsed by the women-hating leftists.

    @Born Again American, I love it, I did include a link to Sarah's Mama Grizzlies ad, but I should have added something about fighting like a girl. Awesome. And thank you so much for your wonderful compliment!

    @Odie, LOL

    @Vineyard, this is exactly why we must fight these horrible femisogynists and their constant women-bashing. Choosing to stay home to be a wife, mother, and helpmate is just as valid (if not more so) as choosing another life path. Good for you!!

    @Kid, heh, actually the term is Lori Ziganto's, and it's perfect. link

  9. Great post fuzzy.

    The denigration of the family is what, in part, A BIG PART, of what will tear this nation down.

    The mothers of the world are who will be raising the coming generations. We need good nurturing mothers to do this. We need mothers who will show by example, who will teach values and who will themselves value their God given role as mothers and wives.

    Religiously speaking, Satan knows this, thus the blatant attack on the family, as is being seen today.

    We see it just as you said, through the Femisoygnists, through gay marriage, divorce, through the media and so forth.

    Every word you typed, completely spot on.

    And yes, the Sarah Palins and those who admire her, have been attacked because of what?
    Because she stands for everything they despise. Because she & they will NOT be put in that box of the femisogynists choosing. The Sarah Palins of the world are speaking out. They are finding their voice more and more. Strong, attractive, self confident women….in the home, in the work place and scattered about…making a difference.

  10. @Pedaling, so true! The denigration of the family is key to getting everyone hooked on government handouts/support. Strong families and communities are anathema to them, as is any display of self-reliance.

    @Kid, YES!! I'm so excited. Thanks to you and Kerry for explaining it to me. Woot!

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